With the
current media and medical research focus on the childhood obesity epidemic,
many parents are concerned about their kids' health, weight and eating
habits.
Being
overweight as a young child is very different than the same condition
encountered as an adult. As many overweight adults will attest, the reaction
to excess weight in childhood is extremely important.
In fact,
the reaction kids receive may be the one factor that determines if they grow
up to be overweight adults. This all-important reaction may come from
parents, teachers, family members, role models, mentors and other key people
in his/her life.
Most
overweight adults can look back and see that, even before they carried
excess weight, they were highly sensitive to comments made about their body
size and shape. It's not unusual for an overweight woman today to look back
at childhood pictures and realize that she was of normal weight when, at an
impressionable age, her mother, father or sibling began to make unfavorable
comments about her weight.
A
parent's fear of their child becoming overweight, their own weight-related
issues, or their need to control their child's appearance often transmits
the wrong message.
So, if
you notice your child is too heavy for his/her body frame or height, what's
the best recourse?
Never
put a child on a diet.
That
bears repeating.
Never
put a child on a diet!
Diets
don't work for adults and they certainly don't work for children. The
resulting deprivation causes pain, feelings of being misunderstood and
unloved, and nutrition confusion.
Often
kids, after being told their entire lives, "Clean your plate!", wind up with
deep conflict when suddenly told "Don't eat that! You'll get fat!"
Kids
have one positive inherent factor in their favor if they are to achieve a
healthy weight: they are still growing. Focusing on healthier eating habits
without saying a word about it can allow a child to grow
into their optimal weight. Since kids naturally grow taller and
develop muscle as they mature, they have the advantage of being able to grow
into a healthier weight.
Here
are a few tips that will help kids adopt good eating habits:
Respect
kids' limits and eating patterns.
When a child says he/she is full, respect that. Forcing kids to eat,
especially with guilt trips like "kids in Africa are starving" doesn't help
the kids in Africa and it certainly doesn't help your child. It only teaches
him/her to disrespect his/her body.
A young
child will naturally eat in what we might consider strange patterns. They
might eat primarily protein for a day or two, then switch to fruit or
veggies, then want bread. Trust that their inherent intuition is OK. They
will only look for cookies continually if they've been taught that's
acceptable.
Most
kids will even serve themselves an appropriate amount but they'll eat much
more if someone else serves them and there's a larger serving on their
plate.
Make healthy food available and plentiful.
Whenever a kid is hungry, they should find plenty of choices that are
healthy within arm's reach. Whole grain crackers, small cubes of cheese or
turkey, cut up veggies and fruit are easy snacks that should always be on
hand. Avoid cookies, processed crackers made from white-flour, and granola
bars with sugar content similar to a candy bar. Studies have shown that kids
will eat what's available, so mom's or dad's shopping list is more important
than what kids see on TV commercials.
Conscious Eating.
Model
good behavior here. Eat with no distractions like TV, games, or reading.
Research shows that kids who watch two or more hours of TV every day are
nearly three times more likely to be overweight as children who watch less.
The habits we create as children are harder to break as adults. After years
of unconscious eating while reading, playing video games, watching TV or
studying, a kid has learned to eat by remote control. They tend to eat until
their food is gone, ignoring their own hunger signals and internal signals
to stop eating.
Protein
up at breakfast.
Eating
breakfast fuels both body and brain and is a vital part of good nutrition
for children. Instilling the breakfast habit is valuable and kids perform
better on tests when they've eaten a breakfast that includes protein and
calcium. So, skip the high carb and sugar breakfast cereals and include
eggs, peanut or almond butter or lean meats and cheese in breakfast menus.
Take lunch to school.
Although
many schools are more aware of nutrition than 10 years ago, there is still a
lot of extra fat, salt and calories on most lunchroom trays. When you pack a
child's lunch, be sure there are whole grains, fruits, lean protein and
calcium available. A good compromise, if your child likes to have a "school
lunch", let them do it once a week.
Make
dinner instead of fast-fooding it.
Most parents today claim "lack of time" as the reason for grabbing a fast
food meal in the evenings. But this appears to be a misleading excuse. Time
studies actually show we save time by cooking at home. Meals made at home
can be simple and easy - a little protein, vegetables and a multi-grain
carbohydrate is the best combination. Contrast the time it takes to put
seasoned chicken breasts in the oven and make a salad vs. a trip to the
local Chinese takeout and staying home is actually the time saver. Shopping
thoroughly and often is the trick here so preparation time is minimal.
Be
mindful of the effect you have.
Parents often do what's most expedient in the moment. That's understandable
with the hectic lives we lead today. But, remembering that you are setting
your children up for the rest of their lives (in effect "programming" them)
is a different viewpoint to take. Everything you teach them as children
stays with them for life.
Spending
an extra hour a week planning and shopping can have a big impact on a family
health now and in the future. The reward is a healthier family with habits
that will support their well-being for the rest of their lives.
Remember, however, that
our job as parents is to instill good self-esteem in our kids. Raising
children to make good choices and trust themselves doesn't naturally grow
from making their decisions for them, nitpicking or criticizing them.
Making sure they feel respected and loved is more important in creating
good, healthy habits than controlling their environment or limiting their
choices.